Those of us who are regulars on dating sites such as Annunci69.it or Club Privè know it well: the risks associated with this vice are real, and often being discovered is the greatest fear, both for those who approach in this world for the first time that of the most experienced.
Many people don’t care much that this aspect of their sexuality can be made public among friends, relatives and colleagues in the office, having enough character not to give it weight and not being in a particularly exposed position at work, but for some, being discovered involves unpleasant situations, with implications that can turn out to be negative.
Whether you are a swinger couple or a lone wolf, whether you are a simple voyeur or a fan of more extreme practices, the repercussions are real, and to be taken into account in this game.
In addition to the inevitable embarrassment, which in most cases is easily overcome, the consequences could be more or less annoying, especially in the workplace and in the family.
Small precautions
The most effective trick that can be implemented, the more experienced know it well, is upstream, when the first announcements are published: not making yourself too recognizable .
If you live in a small town, it might be a good idea to set up a neighboring town as your residence, just to clear any doubts.
The same is true for those who attend Club Privè. If you have trouble being recognized (but remember, everyone you meet is in the same situation as you ), it’s wise to pick one out of the area, even if that might cost you a longer commute.
The secret is a healthy laugh
And when you are caught red-handed, how do you react? Well, preparing for the eventuality is necessary, to face possible embarrassing situations without feeling in the wrong: after all, you are not doing anything wrong, what you do in your private sphere is always completely legitimate!
On our Forum there are dozens of stories and testimonials from people who have been recognized, and they all have the same common denominator: patience!
Everything lies in the total and unconditional acceptance of one’s inclinations , free from external conditioning; only starting from this assumption will it be possible, if necessary, to be self-irony and not lower one’s gaze, overwhelmed by an embarrassment which, in addition to being stupid, is also counterproductive .
Awareness leads to tranquillity, and the latter is a precious weapon to face with a smile ironic looks, astonished faces and piqued comments, which otherwise can also turn out to be heavy: you put yourself on the line, so play to the end!
A right word, said at the right time, will silence gossips and nosy people who, in one fell swoop, will understand that you are comfortable with what you do and that they will thus find themselves without any more arguments against you .
In fact, it is not said at all that everything turns into a negative thing, on the contrary, very often friendships are born that drag on into everyday life and which, without that small meeting, would not have been possible: making the best of bad game, in these situations, always brings benefits , as the more experienced will surely have had the opportunity to experience during their spicy evenings.
And you, have you been discovered? How did you react?
Share your experiences in the comments.